By offering possible strategies. It’s a bit like the stubborn driver who won’t ask for street directions. He’ll waste a lot of time driving around in circles when it would be much easier to just ask.
Ask an experienced psychologist and there’s a very good chance that they’ve studied, seen and dealt with a problem like yours many times in their career. No embarrassment – they’ve probably seen it before.
They can offer you a strategy or coping skills that will likely last a life time. A great result for a small outlay of time and effort.